Here's How You're Stopping Yourself From Having What You Long For - And What To Do About It

1.    Do you know how you would like your life and loves to be?

2.    Does your experience reflect your desires?

3.   Do you sometimes secretly despair that nothing will ever change?

That’s exactly how my life used to be before I started working with Alan, my first life coach.

I remember him telling me,

“People live the lives they love whatever they may say.”

In other words, actions speak louder than words.

Soon I discovered that I’d been the one creating my relationships and experiences – the ones I insisted I didn’t want.

I discovered that I was riddled with limiting beliefs that were holding me back and, worse, steering me in the opposite direction from where I wanted to go.

One of the things that I wanted more than anything was to love and to be loved.

My first marriage to Bill was a bitter disappointment in that respect so I had this deep need for love, to feel it and to be able to give it.

I was shocked to realise that I was the one who’d been keeping love at arm’s length – friendships as well as romance.

Over time I discovered how I was getting in my own way,

1. I kept clinging to my comfort zone
2. I resisted letting go of of my poor relationship habits because it seemed like too much work, 
3. I  was reluctant to let go of  things because they felt safe and familiar. I hadn't realised that they may have been familiar but they were definitely not safe.

Eventually, I learned new relationship habits and I began to notice that people started relating to me in a different way. 

Better still, a new breed of friends started coming into my life and those friendships became deeper and stronger.

And there's one other thing I finally understood, namely that

“I can’t change what’s outside until I change what’s inside.”

And so, I started looking at myself, what I did that worked, what I did that did not work, what I really believed, what I really cared about and more.

And, gradually, I learned to know and like and respect myself.

I went from people pleasing to authentic, from blaming to taking responsibility, from helpless to powerful, from independent to inter-dependent.

That’s when everything on the outside started to change too.

Would you like to discover how these changes happened?

If you do, let's have a chat.

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